Let Them: The Two Words That Will Set You Free

It’s not uncommon to wish the world—and the people in it—were perfect, or at least “normal.” Most of the time, this isn’t true. Friends betray, lovers leave, and sometimes rulebreakers win. When this happens, we’re often left broken and confused, questioning our decisions, beliefs, and even who we are.

This is exactly what Mel Robbin’s book “The let them theory” is about.

Happy Thursday! Today on Book nerd Thursdays we bring you an exclusive look into Mel Robbin’s book that’s helped millions around the world break free from expectations and find peace—even during life’s messiest moments.

Robbins emphasizes a powerful yet simple message: If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated with your life, the problem usually isn’t you—it’s the power you give to other people. And the solution? Just two words: Let them.

“If your friends aren’t inviting you out to brunch this weekend, let them.”
“If the person you’re interested in doesn’t want a commitment, let them.”

Here are 5 important things to teach your brain to just let them-

• Breaking the Cycle of Control -Mel Robbins uncovers the roots of insecurity and fear that often drive our controlling behavior (like micromanage someone’s actions). These actions often stem from a need to control outcomes to avoid disappointment or failure. Robbins explains that letting go of this need can relieve the stress we unintentionally put on ourselves and others.

• Redefining Boundaries- Healthy boundaries aren’t about shutting people out; they’re about letting the right people in while protecting your peace. Robbins illustrates this with relatable examples, such as saying "no" to last-minute plans that disrupt your schedule or refusing to respond to texts at midnight.

• The Science of Letting Go- Robbins explains how control and anxiety are closely linked in the brain, with stress hormones amplifying our need to cling to certainty. By practicing mindfulness or reframing anxious thoughts, we can train our brains to process these emotions more effectively. For instance, instead of panicking over a canceled job interview, reframe it as an opportunity to prepare better for the next one.

• Relationships: Letting Them Be- In relationships, "Let Them" serves as a mantra to build trust and mutual respect. Consider a friend who cancels plans last minute. Instead of dwelling on why they didn’t prioritize you, let them. This mindset allows space for understanding while preventing resentment from building. 

• Building Resilience- Letting go builds emotional resilience, a skill that helps you bounce back from life’s challenges. Imagine failing an exam or missing out on an opportunity. Instead of spiraling into self-doubt, Robbins encourages readers to view setbacks as stepping stones for growth.

The Let Them Theory invites readers to reclaim their time, energy, and joy by focusing on what’s within their control. Robbins blends science, storytelling, and practical advice into a validating guide for personal development. Whether it’s relationships, work, or self-growth, this book offers wisdom that can make a meaningful difference in anyone’s life.

You can get the audiobook for free right now at amazon through the link below!👇

See you mindset growth enthusiasts on Saturday!

~The Mindset Matters Team